Why I say "I don't care" all the time and what I actually care deeply about. My journey from chasing external validation to defining success for myself.
This is so real. I had a huge turning point like that, too. That feeling of chasing the "cool" things in your twenties, the big house, the career, is pure insecurity talking.
You're right, the real game-changer is realizing that true success is about time, relationships, and the freedom to design your life. Everything else is just noise.
When you redefine what's important, you stop worrying about who "gets" you. "I couldn't care less" is the sound of someone who finally belongs to themselves.
Thanks for this reflection, Jeremy. I enjoyed reading about the transformation you’ve had from your early 20s, into your 30s.
I’m just missing one thing – the well-being of all sentient beings. Wondering how you feel about that? You remarked that as long as you and your inner circle and bank account are doing well, you have everything you need.
How do you feel about the well-being of others? The planet? The children? Your neighbor?
I guess my question stems from my own experience. When I realized that everything and everyone is interconnected in this life, I realized that my well-being can be extended and offered to others. Maybe that’s just my core of being a healer.
Thank you Tamy for reading the post and taking the time to leave this thoughtful comment.
“You remarked that as long as you and your inner circle and bank account are doing well, you have everything you need.” > I focused on that because I personally believe on filling your own cup first (or the oxygen mask)… because you cannot help others if you are not in a right place yourself. I see that as the starting point.
How do I feel about everyone/everything else? I want to give you a real answer instead of just a cookie-cutter thing (as a result it’s taking me time to articulate my thoughts haha).
I agree with you about the interconnectedness of us all. I would say that I’m probably not the most selfless person out there (I would even that I’m more selfish than selfless). I can be very generous, but also not… I notice that I am generous with people close to me, but not very much with strangers. I would have to explore why.
I do believe in being a good person and karma. I do my best not to harm others. I do my best to leave a place as it was or better. I do my best to be respectful and helpful when I interact with people.
I also recognize that there are many things I don’t do. I don’t proactively take the initiative to solve problems (I’ve done a bit of volunteering, but not much despite having good experience - I’m just not making it a priority with my time). I don’t get involved in global issues. I travel a lot which is not ideal for the climate.
That was a good reflection and is good food for thoughts. Things to reflect on!
Thanks for reflecting back so thoughtfully and honestly, Jeremie. I love that you received the question and took your time in observing the truths about YOU :)
I’ve been on a conscious quest to adjust my thinking along these lines. Moving abroad really helps to highlight the ways your native culture inures you to certain ways of thinking or seeing things. I used to strive for something unattainable, and along the way found much more value in contentment than happiness. Thanks for sharing!
What I understand reading you is that moving abroad helped you expand your perspective, and consider things from a different POV. As a result, you re-defined what was important.
I love you used the word contentment also. Being content and grateful for what we have, without taking it all for granted, is such a powerful hack.
This is so real. I had a huge turning point like that, too. That feeling of chasing the "cool" things in your twenties, the big house, the career, is pure insecurity talking.
You're right, the real game-changer is realizing that true success is about time, relationships, and the freedom to design your life. Everything else is just noise.
When you redefine what's important, you stop worrying about who "gets" you. "I couldn't care less" is the sound of someone who finally belongs to themselves.
I’m glad this resonated Maya.
I love how your last paragraph and how you express it here 👏
Thanks for this reflection, Jeremy. I enjoyed reading about the transformation you’ve had from your early 20s, into your 30s.
I’m just missing one thing – the well-being of all sentient beings. Wondering how you feel about that? You remarked that as long as you and your inner circle and bank account are doing well, you have everything you need.
How do you feel about the well-being of others? The planet? The children? Your neighbor?
I guess my question stems from my own experience. When I realized that everything and everyone is interconnected in this life, I realized that my well-being can be extended and offered to others. Maybe that’s just my core of being a healer.
Would love your thoughts. 😊
Thank you Tamy for reading the post and taking the time to leave this thoughtful comment.
“You remarked that as long as you and your inner circle and bank account are doing well, you have everything you need.” > I focused on that because I personally believe on filling your own cup first (or the oxygen mask)… because you cannot help others if you are not in a right place yourself. I see that as the starting point.
How do I feel about everyone/everything else? I want to give you a real answer instead of just a cookie-cutter thing (as a result it’s taking me time to articulate my thoughts haha).
I agree with you about the interconnectedness of us all. I would say that I’m probably not the most selfless person out there (I would even that I’m more selfish than selfless). I can be very generous, but also not… I notice that I am generous with people close to me, but not very much with strangers. I would have to explore why.
I do believe in being a good person and karma. I do my best not to harm others. I do my best to leave a place as it was or better. I do my best to be respectful and helpful when I interact with people.
I also recognize that there are many things I don’t do. I don’t proactively take the initiative to solve problems (I’ve done a bit of volunteering, but not much despite having good experience - I’m just not making it a priority with my time). I don’t get involved in global issues. I travel a lot which is not ideal for the climate.
That was a good reflection and is good food for thoughts. Things to reflect on!
Thanks for reflecting back so thoughtfully and honestly, Jeremie. I love that you received the question and took your time in observing the truths about YOU :)
Always happy to be challenged and to get a chance to improve 😊
I’ve been on a conscious quest to adjust my thinking along these lines. Moving abroad really helps to highlight the ways your native culture inures you to certain ways of thinking or seeing things. I used to strive for something unattainable, and along the way found much more value in contentment than happiness. Thanks for sharing!
Mmm I love that Gillian and can relate a lot.
What I understand reading you is that moving abroad helped you expand your perspective, and consider things from a different POV. As a result, you re-defined what was important.
I love you used the word contentment also. Being content and grateful for what we have, without taking it all for granted, is such a powerful hack.