The part about pregnancy losses and how expectations shifted through repeated grief is incredibly raw and honest. You're right that suffering comes from unmet expectations rather than circumstances themselves, but actually living that truth - especially in something so emotionally brutal - is a whole different level of wisdom. I've found the same pattern with travel goals. When I first started, every canceled flight or closed border felt like a catastrophe because I had rigid expectations about how things should unfold. Now, years in, I expect disruption as part of the process. Plans change, visas get denied, accommodations fall through - and I'm okay because I stopped expecting smooth sailing. Your gratitude practice is something I've tried inconsistently but your framing might be what finally makes it stick.
“I expect disruption as part of the process.” > This is probably the best piece of advice here. We all expect everything will always be smooth and fine. Without becoming paranoid, being aware that disruption will happen - it’s part of the process, part of life - should bring some peace when they happen… because they were sort of expected.
Nice article Jeremie, and cool that you are in Thailand now! I loved it there, where are you exactly? (if you don't mind saying). I am in the Philippines right now.
It might sounds cheesy, woo woo and all that... but intentionally writing down or saying out loud a few things you are genuinely grateful each day has been super helpful for me to realize how good my life is... especially during less fun times.
It might be an overhyped practice, but the results are underrated. Mainly because most people stay surface level or write the same things daily.
You are a GIFT!!
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Thank you so much for your support ❤️
The part about pregnancy losses and how expectations shifted through repeated grief is incredibly raw and honest. You're right that suffering comes from unmet expectations rather than circumstances themselves, but actually living that truth - especially in something so emotionally brutal - is a whole different level of wisdom. I've found the same pattern with travel goals. When I first started, every canceled flight or closed border felt like a catastrophe because I had rigid expectations about how things should unfold. Now, years in, I expect disruption as part of the process. Plans change, visas get denied, accommodations fall through - and I'm okay because I stopped expecting smooth sailing. Your gratitude practice is something I've tried inconsistently but your framing might be what finally makes it stick.
“I expect disruption as part of the process.” > This is probably the best piece of advice here. We all expect everything will always be smooth and fine. Without becoming paranoid, being aware that disruption will happen - it’s part of the process, part of life - should bring some peace when they happen… because they were sort of expected.
Nice article Jeremie, and cool that you are in Thailand now! I loved it there, where are you exactly? (if you don't mind saying). I am in the Philippines right now.
Just settled in Bangkok... going to stay here for a while, 18 months at least for sure. Let me know when you come around, would be great to meet IRL!
It might sounds cheesy, woo woo and all that... but intentionally writing down or saying out loud a few things you are genuinely grateful each day has been super helpful for me to realize how good my life is... especially during less fun times.
It might be an overhyped practice, but the results are underrated. Mainly because most people stay surface level or write the same things daily.